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Thought for the weekend: Don’t keep doing, just BE

21 June; Author: Niyija

Maybe the Winter Solstice, longest night of the year, is a good time to revisit our goals for the year and see how we are doing.

Exist: To BE, especially to be a real, actual or current thing, not merely something imagined or written about.

Last year was an eventful year for me with mountains to climb, rivers to swim and valleys to trudge though that I hardly saw December approaching. Another year had passed and I was astonished to find that I had made it to the other side.  I can say that this year has not seen any abating of same! My soul was restless and I needed to find out why. I found this quote the other day while I found myself wrestling with life and issues and realised I was missing a little key that could open a door to many hidden pathways in life and I would like to share it with you:

“In the attitude of silence the soul finds the path in a clearer light, and what is elusive and deceptive resolves itself into crystal clearness. Our life is a long and arduous quest after Truth”. – Mahatma Ghandi


We fill our empty spaces with music, reading, television, games and people because we may be afraid to listen to our own soul crying out for attention. It is only in silence that we can heal our souls and get to the root of our discontent. By silence, I mean a silent or still mind and heart whether through meditation or just being in the moment and viewing life as it is.

During my vacation, I had many moments or ‘pauses’ between doing and sleeping

Pausing to view the world as it is without judgement or opinion is a liberating experience. It is a lesson in non-prejudicial acceptance, an opportunity to not have an opinion about anything.

Not attaching labels to what you see, is to take one step higher than the human mind can conceive of to play in the realm of the soul. It is in this peaceful realm that we can experience the truth of ‘Being’: not Doing or Feeling or Thinking, just Being.

Being is almost a state of meditation – of finding the Truth

We can only really find truth if we are devoid of all pre-conditioned teachings, pre-conceived thoughts and ideals for the present and future. Being brings us to a state of experiencing life in its entirety. To cut through all the ties that bind and to experience your own truth is the reward.

During the many days that have brought us to this moment, we have attached ourselves to various ways of living which society deems proper or that which we feel comfortable doing. We are all guilty of flooding our minds with useless frivolities that cause our own demise in the end.

We have been doing that most of our lives so it has become second nature I’m sure. We fight to find our own path through the jungle of life when instead we should be looking inward towards our soul to find the paved walkway we know is there but cannot see.

Take some time to just BE

Away from the TV, radio, children, spouses, friends and pets to look at life from a different angle. It is by no means easy because your mind will wander and judgements will form while you are in a state of ‘Being’ but try… the silence speaks to you!

By taking some quality time to yourself you will find that your intuition is heightened – your soul is finally bursting through all the emotions and activities and having its say and you are able to hear it!



Copied from All4Woman – Judy Mills

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