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  • What Alcohol Really Does to Your Sex Life
    Is your favorite drink blocking your ability to have an orgasm? A cocktail or glass of wine can help us to relax and even feel a little sexier. But does it actually result in better sex? Probably not. What does alcohol really do to our sex life? Let’s first look at what happens to the […]
  • Look Sexy Naked
    Though we may not be too critical of our partner’s flaws — after all, our lover is only human — most women excel at seeing even the most minute problems with our own bodies. And that perception can make it really difficult to share ourselves with one of the people we love the most. Whether […]
  • Woman are NOT the same as men
    The precedence of women in this day and age has certainly evolved from the rather backward image society held years ago… Women have forged relevant notions in the world and have proven to be just as useful as their male counterparts. What is a woman’s purpose in life? As women, it remains our sole purpose […]

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Not getting any? You’re not alone: Women today have less time for sex than their 1950s counterparts.

And it’s estimated that 40 million Americans have what experts call a sexless marriage (having sex less than 10 times a year).

A regular sex life is good for your health. It can satisfy all sorts of emotional and physical-intimacy needs and help partners stay close, says Anita H. Clayton, MD, a professor of psychiatry at the University of Virginia and author of “Satisfaction: Women, Sex, and the Quest for Intimacy.” So why the dry spell? You can chalk it up to a sheer lack of time, but there are a slew of other reasons, too — from weight gain and perimenopause to technology overload (stop texting now) in the bedroom. Here’s how to beat the top 10 sex busters.

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How to be Sexy During Winter?

21 March;  Author: Niyija

The word sexy is literally associated to showing much skin as a result of which, most of the sexy glam are often disappointed when winter sets in. We being primal creatures tend to get aroused with things related to skin. But hold on…!! There are a couple of things you can still do to appear as sexy as ever without putting any hold to your body beauty routine. Though it might sound quite awkward to step out of your comfy clothes and slippers for a pedicure, yet to fight away the winter blues and look sexy you need to take care of your body. You need to make your body feel sexy in order to look sexy in winter.

Accessories are going to come in handy and will be playing a major role in your winter wardrobe to make you look sexy. Following are some of the things that you can do to appear and look sexy during winterswithout forsaking warm clothes:

1) Incorporating animal prints in your wardrobe will add spice to your dressing sense. Some creativity coupled with a little boldness is all that you require. And also a thumb rule that must be kept in mind while wearing animal prints is that the shapes must be tasteful or it will look wayward.



There are a few small, easy things that you can do every day which will keep you fit, healthy and feeling great. Read on…

1.  Drink water first thing in the morning after getting up.Throughout the day, drink filtered water: drink a glass half-an-hour before each meal, and before every beverage you drink. Your body needs sufficient plain water to stay healthy. Try to avoid bottled water. It’s usually not as clean as the water in our taps, and is horrendous for the environment.

2.  When you are waiting for transport to work or school, try stretching. It gets your blood flowing and makes you feel more awake.

3.  Take some deep breaths when in the fresh air. This is good for your lungs and will rejuvenate you. Don’t hyperventilate – just breathe steadily.


5 Signs that He’s Falling for You

15 November;  Author: Niyija

Guys don’t generally express their feelings very clearly, and it’s often difficult to tell whether a guy is really falling for you or not…..

Before you rush blindly into a dead-end relationship with a guy, try to find out if he’s really into you or just around for some short-term fun.

Until science comes up with a way to read a man’s mind, we’ve put together five simple signs that could indicate that he’s falling for you:



How to Love a Man – Romantic Ideas

8 November;  Author: Niyija

Relationships, like roller coasters can be thrilling, with those ups and downs, twists and turns – and you’ll soon discover that if you want to make the most of the ride, you’ll need to put in a little extra effort to make your man feel loved. It goes without saying that if you don’t feel as though he’s doing his part to make you feel special in a relationship, no amount of effort on your part will bring you happiness, and it’s probably not a healthy place to be. But if you follow at least a few of these seven tips, you can make your man feel loved, and keep the embers glowing.



How to Play the Midlife Dating Game

2 November;  Author: Niyija

Dating at any age is difficult, and when you haven’t done it for a while, it can be even more daunting. But don’t fear, you are not alone! Many people find this difficult and share the same fears and concerns as you…

Here are our top rules for the midlife dating game:



How a man’s gaze roams over a woman’s body can tell you how into sex he is

— a new finding that doesn’t play out when the genders are swapped.

Men’s gaze reflects their underlying sexual motivation, the researchers found. A woman’s gaze, on the other hand, does not seem to match her sexual thoughts as clearly.

The findings aren’t just about the differences between Mars and Venus; researchers hope they can be used to track the sexual motivations of sex offenders, providing a way to measure how well treatments are working.

“Eye movement is spontaneous and very difficult to inhibit so we thought perhaps we can use an eye tracker as a reliable marker to track sexual interest,” study researcher Kun Guo, a psychologist at the University of Lincoln in the United Kingdom, told LiveScience.

The eyes have it
Previous work has found that men, especially, give away their sexual thoughts with their eyes. The dilation of the pupil in response to sexual images, for example, can reveal sexual orientation reliably in men and in gay women, though straight women don’t show such clear patterns. Studies have also found that heterosexual men gaze longer at pictures of women than of men, while heterosexual women look at male and female images about equally. [ 50 Sultry Facts About Sex ]

Guo and his colleagues had previously discovered when young men look at images of women close to them in age, their eyes are drawn to the chest and waist-hip region. (This may not shock any woman who’s been ogled in a bar lately.) These two regions are likely important signals for men, with breasts hinting at the sexual maturity of the woman and waist/hip ratio suggesting her ability to carry a child, Guo said. Men don’t show the same ogling patterns when looking at older women or children, suggesting this sizing-up may be a signal of sexual interest.

To test the idea, the researchers showed 30 men, ages 18 to 25, and an equivalent group of women, all heterosexual, pictures of clothed children, early-20s adults and adults in their late 30s or early 40s. They asked the participants to simply look at the pictures as they’d normally scan an image while a gaze-tracking device recorded where their eyes moved.
Next, the participants filled out questionnaires about their sexual personalities, covering topics from how sexually inhibited they were to how sexually compulsive, or likely to take sexual risks, they were.

Sexual gaze
By comparing the questionnaire answers with the gaze-tracking data, the researchers found that men who reported more sexual compulsivity or risk-taking gazed longer than other men at the breasts and hip-waist regions of 20-year-old women — but not at those regions in girls or women older than themselves. In other words, their gaze seems to give away their higher-than-average sexual interest. And the longer gazes are confined to women they find sexually interesting (based on age). “We argue it’s a high-level mental process which guides this unique gaze pattern,” Guo said.

Women’s gaze patterns were not nearly so neat. The researchers did find that highly sexually compulsive women looked more at the bodies of the 20-year-old women than did other women, but they also looked more at the bodies of children and 40-year-old women. It could be that the more sexually compulsive a woman is, the more she compares her body with other women’s, the researchers wrote online Nov. 13 in the Journal of Sex Research. Either way, the women’s gaze did not appear to reveal their sexual interests; no gaze patterns were found when shown images of men.

Guo and his colleagues are now analyzing the data from a third experiment comparing the gaze patterns of sex offenders with non-offenders. So far, he said, the results look promising.

“We argue probably we can use this eye tracker potentially as some kind of reliable methodologically to asses how effective the treatment is and how likely people will be to reoffend,” Guo said.

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By Stephanie Pappas

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19 October;  Author: Admin

The world is never over … you can change …
you can make things work for you …

for yourself, for your relationship … never give up.




It is very important to note that extroversion is a natural and healthy personality trait. However, it can be worthwhile for the extrovert to cultivate a few contemplative practices. If you’re an extrovert, perhaps you’ve never considered how a rich inner life can bring positive benefits for both you and the people about whom you care.

It’s important not to associate being an introvert with being shy. There is a difference: A person who is shy usually wants to socialise but can’t, because he or she is anxious in some way. Introverts choose not to socialise because frequently they simply prefer their own company to others’. Real introverts also use ‘alone time’ to recharge themselves – after giving a lot of energy to an extrovert or two.

This article seeks to help an interested, extroverted reader learn how time spent in moments in quiet solitude can be as fulfilling as social relationships.

1. Be patient when trying to be more introverted

Sometimes solitude and looking inward can seem ‘boring’ to an extrovert, since you’re used to drawing energy from external stimuli. However, if you give it time and follow these steps, you’ll discover that the world of ideas, observations, and imagination in your head is just as animated and dynamic as the world outside.



tips-for-building-loving-relationshipHow many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These indispensable tips were written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships, family and even work relationships.

1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid.

Don’t interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don’t make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you’re too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe and “calm down.”

Remember: your partner is not the enemy.

2. Separate the facts from the feelings.

What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I’m seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What’s the real truth? Once you’re able to differentiate facts from feelings, you’ll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.


With online dating and careers that take you across continents, long distance relationships stretch over increasing mileage. The mileage doesn’t keep your heart from skipping a beat when you get a text message or still the excitement of hearing that someone is falling in love with you. So how do you keep that?


Here are 7 tips to help you achieve a lasting long distance relationship.


Cougars are the hot new thing and thousands of young South African men are choosing them over women their own age!

The leading cougar/cub dating site, – that connects confident, mature women in their sexual prime with the younger men who love them – conducted a survey of the South African cubs on the site, prompted by record-high sign-ups over the last month.

No strings attached fun

The survey polled 1 904 South African male members, and reveals that no strings attached fun is the main reason why cougars appeal to cubs (49,3%).

Sexual experience (30,6%), a cougar’s confidence (12,9%) and the ability to relate better to older women (7,2%) are other reasons why cougars appeal to cubs. While 72,9% had dated women their own age or younger, a dedicated 27,1% had only ever dated older women.



Do single people have more fun?

8 August;  Author: Niyija

In a recent discussion with some friends we all agreed that on my upcoming trip to New York, it would be in my best interests to remain single. This got me thinking if us single people have more fun than people in relationships.

I like to say that I am going through the ‘selfish’ phase of my life. Being single means I can do whatever I want, (to whoever will have me), whenever I want. All I really have to worry about is me. I hope this ‘selfish’ phase does not go on for longer than it needs to, however I am enjoying this freedom that only a single person can have – for as long as it lasts.

Single people definitely have more random fun. The lack of commitment to any one person means you do not need to plan far in advance. I’ve been out to get some milk before the store closes and only got home the next morning. You can just go with the flow and organically see where the night takes you.

In a relationship you need to consider what the other person wants to do, and both of you do not always want to do the same thing. This decision making process can take time, so things tend to be more structured and planned whilst a thoughtful decision is made. This can lead to a couple deciding go to home at a “responsible hour” while the rest of you keep going and end up hitting golf balls into the ocean at 6am while the sun rises.

There are clear benefits of being in a relationship, that many would say outweigh being single.


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