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  • What Alcohol Really Does to Your Sex Life
    Is your favorite drink blocking your ability to have an orgasm? A cocktail or glass of wine can help us to relax and even feel a little sexier. But does it actually result in better sex? Probably not. What does alcohol really do to our sex life? Let’s first look at what happens to the […]
  • Look Sexy Naked
    Though we may not be too critical of our partner’s flaws — after all, our lover is only human — most women excel at seeing even the most minute problems with our own bodies. And that perception can make it really difficult to share ourselves with one of the people we love the most. Whether […]
  • Woman are NOT the same as men
    The precedence of women in this day and age has certainly evolved from the rather backward image society held years ago… Women have forged relevant notions in the world and have proven to be just as useful as their male counterparts. What is a woman’s purpose in life? As women, it remains our sole purpose […]

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Is your favorite drink blocking your ability to have an orgasm?

A cocktail or glass of wine can help us to relax and even feel a little sexier. But does it actually result in better sex?

Probably not.

What does alcohol really do to our sex life?

Let’s first look at what happens to the sex parts of our body when alcohol comes into the picture:

1. Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. Alcohol acts by inhibiting parts of the central nervous system important for sexual arousal and orgasm — respiration, circulation and sensitivity of nerve endings.

2. Alcohol dehydrates the body. Sexual arousal needs a certain volume of blood to bring oxygen and greater sensation to the genitals. This process is associated with erection (in men) and lubrication (in women).

With less volume of liquid in the body and with a depressed nervous system, the body struggles with sexual performance. But not everything that alcohol does has a negative effect on sex.

Alcohol = Aphrodisiac?

Alcohol has the reputation of being an aphrodisiac. But is it really? Grandma was right — the answer lies in moderation.

One, maybe two drinks (depending on your weight, gender and other factors) can act as a social lubricant. Studies have shown that alcohol can enable some people to overcome sexual inhibitions or feelings of inadequacy.

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Look Sexy Naked

7 June;  Author: Niyija

Though we may not be too critical of our partner’s flaws — after all, our lover is only human — most women excel at seeing even the most minute problems with our own bodies. And that perception can make it really difficult to share ourselves with one of the people we love the most.

Whether you’re annoyed by acne, shy about the chest you think is too flat or are holding onto five (or even 15) stubborn pounds, don’t despair. We’ve got a few tricks to help you look better naked without ever having to hit the gym or resorting to plastic surgery or other painful procedures!

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Woman are NOT the same as men

2 June;  Author: Niyija

The precedence of women in this day and age has certainly evolved from the rather backward image society held years ago…

Women have forged relevant notions in the world and have proven to be just as useful as their male counterparts.

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How to end a negative friendship

29 May;  Author: Niyija

Negative friendships can cause issues in every aspect of your life. They can affect how you think, act and function. While it is usually difficult to rid yourself of a negative friendship, doing so will give you much-needed perspective, as well as peace of mind.

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In every relationship you need to know when to say either “yes” or “hell no”…..

Entering into a relationship means giving up total freedom to do whatever you want, when you want, but you do get loads of cuddle-time and romantic adventures in return. However, successful relationships are all about learning to compromise and communicate well.

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Are You In Love Or Lust?

20 May;  Author: Niyija

Are you in love, or is it lust?

Love and lust are inextricably intertwined. Lust is ground zero for hormones — it’s nature’s way of bringing the opposite sexes together to mate. In fact, without lust, it’s doubtful that love between a man and a woman would have a chance to prosper at all.

The driving force of the sexual imperative bridges the gap between the almost incompatible brain styles of the two sexes. So lust can be seen as one end of a broad continuum, which may or may not culminate in romantic love.

And love is the most ennobling of human emotions — transcendental, exalted and capable of engendering emotional states that can make the male of the species want “to be a better man.”

Men fight wars over lust, but they make homes and families for love.

In love with lust

For men, lust is a heady experience; the brain goes on hold and red-hot surges of testosterone run the show. Lust, like love, is truly blind. This is why, especially at the beginning of a relationship, it can be hard to tell whether you’re in lust or love — whether she may be “The One,” or merely a passing fancy who’ll have your blood boiling for only a short while.

 
 

Creating magical moments in your relationship is something everyone thinks about, but few people do. Perhaps it’s because they actually can’t think of exactly what to do. Here are ten “acts of love” that you can do with and for your partner to bring a little more romance into your relationship.

1. Make your morning time special by bringing your partner a cup of coffee while he or she is still in bed. If you’re willing and able you can also serve them breakfast in bed. It will make your partner feel cherished and the kindness will be returned.

2. Make the time at the end of the work-day when you first see one another extra special by giving each other a 10 second hug and kiss. You will both feel more deeply connected throughout the evening. Also remember to touch your partner affectionately throughout the day, not just when you want to be romantic.

3. Make time to make-time. Plan a romantic rendezvous during the week. You can get a room at a local hotel or plan to have the house all to yourselves. Just the anticipation of being together in this way will add spark to your romantic life.

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4. Whenever you can, take the time to give your partner 100% of your attention when they want to talk to you. Put down the remote control or whatever you’re reading, face your partner and say “What would you like to talk about?” It will make your partner feel loved and important to you.

 
 

… (wobbly cushion tummy and all)

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Saturday morning. 7am. My six-year-old son has clambered under the duvet with me and my husband, as he often does, and I’m enjoying one of the best moments of my day, snuggled up between two people I love dearly.

While one is snoring, the other is poking my tummy, gleefully exclaiming ‘Oh Mummy, it’s so wobbly!’ I love my son to bits and I think it’s sweet that he finds my ‘mummy tummy’ so lovable and amusing.

After all, that’s where he and his two sisters began life and I am always happy to be the butt of jokes about my various motherly jiggly parts. They’re part of who I am now – a mother.

But, on the other hand, I am also a 35-year-old woman and a wife, and when I’m lucky enough to be alone with my 37-year-old husband I don’t want my tummy to be amusing. I want it to feel sexy. I want my whole body to feel sexy.

It is a dilemma faced not just by me, but by the millions of other women who are struggling to fit their two hugely different roles into one body. Is it really possible to be a mother and feel sexy?

It’s certainly a tricky juggling act. And, since the birth of my first child, Emily, 12 years ago, an act I’ve often found impossible to manage.

At times, it’s caused both me and my husband much confusion and put a strain on our relationship.

The truth is that it took me until two years after the birth of my last child – almost ten years during which Mummy Liz dominated Sexy Liz – to feel that I was fully a sexual being again.

So why did it take so long: why do millions of women face long chunks of their lives when they find it hard to exist as sexual beings?

Before I had children, my husband and I weren’t exhausted by crying babies through the night, and we had endless time to ourselves.

And our bodies, well, they were – not to put it too crudely – useful for one thing in particular.

But then I became a mother – and everything changed. There’s a well-known saying that you leave your dignity at the door of the delivery room – and I certainly left mine there.

Giving birth was, by several eons, the least dignified, most shocking and most embarrassing experience of my life.

 
 
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The Single most Important Thing Married Couples Can Do To Stay In Love

8 May;  Author: Admin

Young love is a magical place to be and makes for some very exciting and thrilling memories. The emotional rush. The longing to be with each other when you are apart. The excitement and anticipation of seeing them again. It is very addictive and some people chase that feeling all of their lives. They want to feel the warmth of that bonfire of emotional energy. Bonfires are just not sustainable over a very long time. Like huge stars, they burn hot and fast but then collapse into a black hole of pain and anger. Other stars, like other loves, burn on for a long time. They are stable in their warmth and in their intensity. Married couples who last are like this second kind of star. They may not burn as bright, but they burn for far far longer than their counterparts.

How do married couples stay in love for the long haul? They are grateful to have one another in their lives. They do not take each other for granted. Every little thing their partner does is a gift to them. No act is too small to warrant appreciation, because they know that these little things are small manifestations of their love for one another. Every dinner is a banquet, no matter how small or hastily prepared, because it was made with love and devotion for your partner. Every chore completed is a vast burden off of your back.

When you are grateful, you really appreciate every little thing that someone does for you. You don’t sweat the little stuff and you don’t complain because things are not absolutely perfect. You are deeply grateful for everything your partner does for you, your family and your friends.

THE SINGLEMOST IMPORTANT THING MARRIED PEOPLE CAN DO TO STAY IN LOVE

These small acts of love and devotion every single day put fuel on the fire of your love. They feed the flames with small acts of kindness, empathy and forgiveness. It is easy to just throw wood on the fire, right? You have obviously never had to keep a fire going in the middle of a fierce winter storm. It is when the simple and the easy things become hard that the fire needs tending the most. In the wilderness, letting the fire go out means death in some cases and mutilation through frostbite in others. In a loving relationship, it can mean the same things.

If you neglect the fire, then the love will die as it slowly burns what fuel remains until eventually, the love is all burned up. And when the fire goes out, the relationship is just as dead as a cold campfire. But, instead of losing fingers and toes, you lose a chunk of your heart that you can’t get back.

Just like that campfire in the darkness of the wilderness, you have to feed the fire of your relationship. You do not feed it out of fear or out of love of the flames, but in gratitude for its warmth and security. You are thankful for the light, the warmth and the security that it provides. When you are both feeding the fire of your relationship and are grateful for what it gives, then the fire stays alive even in the harshest weather. But if you get lazy or neglectful, it is easy to let the fire burn out, and once it is out, you may not be able to ignite that fire again.

Life will bring many storms that will try to snuff out your fire. You can spend your time trying to keep yourself warm and dry and let your partner fend for themselves, or you can snuggle with your partner by the fire and share the only poncho you have. If you want love to last a lifetime, then you have to share your warmth with each other and tend the fire together as a team.

The Singlemost Important Thing Married Couples Can Do To Stay In Love

Young love is a magical place to be and makes for some very exciting and thrilling memories. The emotional rush. The longing to be with each other when you are apart. The excitement and anticipation of seeing them again. It is very addictive and some people chase that feeling all of their lives. They want to feel the warmth of that bonfire of emotional energy. Bonfires are just not sustainable over a very long time. Like huge stars, they burn hot and fast but then collapse into a black hole of pain and anger. Other stars, like other loves, burn on for a long time. They are stable in their warmth and in their intensity. Married couples who last are like this second kind of star. They may not burn as bright, but they burn for far far longer than their counterparts.

How do married couples stay in love for the long haul? They are grateful to have one another in their lives. They do not take each other for granted. Every little thing their partner does is a gift to them. No act is too small to warrant appreciation, because they know that these little things are small manifestations of their love for one another. Every dinner is a banquet, no matter how small or hastily prepared, because it was made with love and devotion for your partner. Every chore completed is a vast burden off of your back.

When you are grateful, you really appreciate every little thing that someone does for you. You don’t sweat the little stuff and you don’t complain because things are not absolutely perfect. You are deeply grateful for everything your partner does for you, your family and your friends.

THE SINGLEMOST IMPORTANT THING MARRIED PEOPLE CAN DO TO STAY IN LOVE

These small acts of love and devotion every single day put fuel on the fire of your love. They feed the flames with small acts of kindness, empathy and forgiveness. It is easy to just throw wood on the fire, right? You have obviously never had to keep a fire going in the middle of a fierce winter storm. It is when the simple and the easy things become hard that the fire needs tending the most. In the wilderness, letting the fire go out means death in some cases and mutilation through frostbite in others. In a loving relationship, it can mean the same things.

If you neglect the fire, then the love will die as it slowly burns what fuel remains until eventually, the love is all burned up. And when the fire goes out, the relationship is just as dead as a cold campfire. But, instead of losing fingers and toes, you lose a chunk of your heart that you can’t get back.

Just like that campfire in the darkness of the wilderness, you have to feed the fire of your relationship. You do not feed it out of fear or out of love of the flames, but in gratitude for its warmth and security. You are thankful for the light, the warmth and the security that it provides. When you are both feeding the fire of your relationship and are grateful for what it gives, then the fire stays alive even in the harshest weather. But if you get lazy or neglectful, it is easy to let the fire burn out, and once it is out, you may not be able to ignite that fire again.

Related article: 6 Habits of Happily Married Couples

Life will bring many storms that will try to snuff out your fire. You can spend your time trying to keep yourself warm and dry and let your partner fend for themselves, or you can snuggle with your partner by the fire and share the only poncho you have. If you want love to last a lifetime, then you have to share your warmth with each other and tend the fire together as a team.

When you are truly grateful for your partner, you will sacrifice for them instead of sacrificing them for yourself. When you are grateful for your partner, you will share your meager supplies with them rather than hoard them all for yourself in a vain attempt to survive. When you are grateful, you realize that you are stronger together than apart and you appreciate your partner sticking with you through the rough times. You might carry them today, but when you are grateful, you know they might just as easily be carrying you tomorrow.

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” ~ Epicurus

(Article copied from Power of Positivity and all credit goes to them).

 
 

… to be happy?

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Most people believe more sex equals greater happiness. But a new study finds there is a magic number when it comes to sex among committed couples and that’s once a week.

Researchers used data from more than 30,000 Americans to look at the relationship between happiness and sexual frequency.

Having sex more often than that doesn’t make us any happier, says the study’s lead author, Amy Muise, a social psychologist and postdoctoral fellow at the University of Toronto-Mississauga. But if the sex becomes less frequent than weekly, happiness declines.

“Once a week makes sense in some ways because I think many people would still see this as having regular sex,” says Muise.

Muise and her colleagues used data from more than 30,000 Americans to look at the relationship between happiness and sexual frequency. In one of the bigger surprises, results were the same for men and women, for young and old, and for long and short relationships. That’s right: once a week.

The researchers also looked at the impact of money on happiness.

What did they find?

Sex beats money

That’s right. Frequent sex was more strongly associated with satisfaction than one’s level of wealth.

For Americans who feel pressured to turn up the heat in their relationships, “it’s nice to know that once a week will do,” says Helen Fisher, a senior researcher at the Kinsey Institute. “These researchers have found the sexual thermometer for modern times.”

That weekly sex, Fisher says, affects three different brain systems, which in turn, affect our the health of our relationships and our happiness.

“Having sex boosts our testosterone, which will sustain our sexual drive,” Fisher explains.

“Any stimulation of the genitals will drive the dopamine system, which will lead to feelings of romantic love. And orgasms stimulate the production of oxytocin, which creates feelings of deep attachment,” she says.

More = happier?

One thing the study doesn’t address is whether people who are having less sex would be happier if they increased their frequency of lovemaking, says Dr. Gail Saltz, a psychiatrist at NewYork-Presbyterian and Weill Cornell Medicine.

“Something the researchers didn’t look at is, if you took the people who are unhappy and directed them to have more sex, would they be happier,” Saltz says.

Still, Fisher says, if weekly lovemaking isn’t happening for you, “put it on your schedule, if you can’t be spontaneous.”

 

(From TODAY Health & Wellness)

 
 

Feng shui, often called the art of placement, is an ancient oriental science incorporating astronomy, geography, environment, magnetic fields, physics and natural elements. The Chinese have been using it four thousand years to optimize living and working environments, with an amazing track record of benefits in health, happiness, prosperity and relationships for those who study and use its principles.

Ask practitioner Sophia Schaul; her love life’s dry spell and failing business turned right around using Feng Sui. Now both she and her husband Chris are happy, successful feng shui, (say fung-shway) consultants.  She says even the simple placement of doors, mirrors, or a fish tank, as well as colors, textures and sounds in the house or office have significance and influence the flow of “chi” or energy in our lives.

The bedroom is especially important in this system, since it’s the key area of the house where love, intimacy, relaxation and reproduction flourish.

Here are a few tips for creating a sexier, more sensual bedroom.

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Do you feel extra romantic today? Want to make a really nice, romantic dinner for your loved one? It’s important to try to keep the romantic twist in the relationship, and a great way is to please your partner with a great dinner that even might lead to something more! Read on to get good tips on how to make a romantic dinner, all at home, for the one you love.

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Do Men Really Think This Is True?

10 April;  Author: Niyija

HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY

 

1. Feed him

2. Sleep with him

3. Leave him with peace

4. Don’t check his phone (Msgs)

5. Don’t bother him with his movements

 

So whats so hard about that ?

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